BDSM is a psychosexual subculture based on erotic exchange of power and other forms of sexual relations. The abbreviation includes three concepts: BD – bondage discipline, DS – dominance and submission, SM – sadomasochism.
Most BDSM people in everyday life you do not identify in any way: they will be modest accountants, funny students, serious businessmen or intelligent professors. These people do not wear leather corsets under their jackets, whips in backpacks, handcuffs in handbags. However, in Black London Mistress there are many fans of this intimate pastime, and there is even a theme club.
The young man is short, smiling and quite sociable, although he assures that he is an introvert. He has long hair and a ring with a skull on his finger. However, neither the accessory nor the hairstyle is in any way connected with his hobbies: he is not a biker or a rocker. Vlad is a BDSM guy, but his appearance is also not an example of how such guys usually look.
“I just like the feeling of long hair and it’s more comfortable for me, and the ring is generally a random purchase,” the guy says.
The young man felt a tendency to dominance and aggressive sexual behavior for a long time. Since his youth, Vlad liked certain images or songs, but he did not understand why they fascinated him so much. The pictures showed the girls tied up, and the lyrics contained stories of captured and tortured victims.
In practice, Vlad’s acquaintance with BDSM began about a year ago: the girl invited him to try what she saw in one of the photographs that the young man, without embarrassment, saved on his page on the social network.
Topic – this is the conventionally called the direction itself. BDSM scholars say: “he is in the subject”, “themed evening”, “communicate on the topic”, “topics” and the like.
Upper – a person who chooses a dominant role, he is also called the Master (man), Master / Mistress, Master / Mistress.
The “top” like the feeling of power and control over a person. “By the way, if we talk about sadism, it’s more a desire to hurt than to have power,” explains Vlad.
The bottom one is the one who prefers to obey the “top”, that is, he chooses a passive position.
“As a rule, a person who leans towards the position of the” lower “gets pleasure from the fact that he can relieve himself of all responsibility and shift it onto a partner. That is, he enters into the position of a weak-willed person. on the contrary, they bear a great burden of responsibility or power – and they want to take a break from this, “the Kaliningrad resident assures .
A switch is a person who changes the dominant (can periodically act both as “top” and “bottom”). Although among the “topics” themselves there is an opinion that the existence of “switches” is a myth.
“There are several types of masochists: someone goes for it because his partner likes it so much. There are people who like the very fact of hurting them. And there are also people who like the aftertaste – the sensations that come after. a person who has gone to the gym is experiencing – and after that his muscles ache, it is both pleasant for him and not, “says Vlad.
Vanilla – this is how Whitechaple massage London people call people who are not “in the subject.” For the first time such an epithet of people not interested in BDSM or other sexual subcultural phenomena was awarded American “themes”. The thing is that ordinary ice cream, without flavors or fruit additives, is called vanilla there.