HOW DID YOU GET STARTED WITH SHIBARI?
– Since childhood, I have been constantly drawing, and at a certain moment I became interested in the sphere of events, decor, I love all kinds of manual work. I graduated from the textile institute with a degree in fabric artist, was a decorator, was engaged in interior decoration. It is believed that people who know how to work with their hands are good at shibari – this is also an art. The desire to learn to bond came along with the desire for more intricate sex. First you put on stockings and sexy lingerie, then you go to the hotel so as not to spend time at home, you buy toys, you start trying different games.
– DID THE PARTNERS ASK YOU ABOUT IT?
– No, I wanted it myself. For the most part, men in Russia are rather inert. Thanks to the sex education of recent years, there is hope that this has become better, at least in big cities. In my case, even those of the partners who wanted some delights did not admit this until I myself pestered them with a new idea. I offered to try, and then they said: “Yes, I dreamed about it all my life.” And he was silent! This is a classic. With one of the partners, we shared fantasies about bondage. It was in 2010, then we did not know the word “shibari”. They began to try, tied each other in turn with synthetic ropes.
– WHERE DID YOU STUDY SHIBARI?
– In 2012, I found classes on this practice on the Internet and came to the first meeting. The suspension made an indelible impression on me. Gradually, I began to get acquainted with the thematic get-together, to practice. When you are in a party, you borrow something from your friends – show that, show that. At a certain level, you can disassemble the straps from photos and videos on YouTube. Whoever wants to find opportunities to study everywhere.
– ARE THERE MANY GIRLS IN THIS GET-TOGETHER WHO TIE UP?
– There are not many bondage girls, but they are. Many tie at home and do not perform at events or attend parties. I dye and sell jute ropes for tying. In 2018, there was a huge surge in demand for them – I sold them ten times more than in the previous several years. The buyers were equally divided between boys and girls. But it’s mostly men who perform in public, which is why we so often see what I call “tied boobs” on shibari shows.
– WHY?
– This is largely due to the fact that we have a traditional, bonded country. Even though there are as many men who love to be tied up as women (I would say a 50-50 ratio), they don’t want to shine. Even if a girl ties up, most likely at the festival she will work with a female model. It is not accepted in our country for a guy to be in a subordinate role in public, because a man must be a man, the boys will not understand. Plus some are married or in a relationship, and femdom is a secret game for them.
– DO YOU WORK WITH GUYS AND GIRLS?
– I only work with guys, but sometimes I invite girls for the show, plus I help my students tie up their models regardless of gender. Another question is that at master classes, models are always dressed, and the show is far from the same as a full session. At a performance, it is important to show the greatest number of vivid special effects in the shortest possible time and be an artist.
– IS IT HARDER TO TIE A MAN?
– There is no difference in technique, but there is a difference in weight. A man weighs more, it is physically heavier, it is more difficult to do acrobatic sketches. Big uncle girl with one left – hoba – and lifted to the ceiling. A girl can’t lift a man like that. Technically, one can suspend a person weighing up to 100 or more kilograms, because they are suspended in parts, and not all at once.
– WHAT WAS THE MOST DIFFICULT CLIENT?
– I tied and hung up men of 100 kilograms. But it doesn’t always make sense. Shibari is not limited to suspensions. In performances, they are often shown for the sake of entertainment, plus this is a way to measure skills with colleagues. Plus, if a bondage guy is poking around on the floor, the audience simply won’t see what’s going on.
– ARE THERE ANY SPECIAL REQUIREMENTS FOR THE MODELS FOR THE SHOW?
– It is desirable that the person is flexible. If he is wooden or a rocking man whose arms do not start back, it will not look cool.
– IS YOUR FAVORITE PRACTICE SHIBARI?
– Yes, binding and immobilization. Shibari is a synthesis of BDSM practice and art. You not only create thrills and get feedback from your partner, but in parallel create a living art object with the help of ropes. The process and the result are very inspiring. I have a creative nature and arms from my shoulders – the result was logical. But over time, my list of fetishes and practices expands. They come from partners, or I see something at parties and I want to try.
